Hello! I pray that this post finds you in peace today, and if not, I pray it helps give you some peace.
Normally my blog posts stem from my very own experiences or personal revelations that I so desperately want to share with the world! Today, I feel as though it is coming from a different place and I feel a mandate to address one of the things that has really been bothering me over the past couple of months. That thing is single women going on rants about men. Rants that point out how there are more "boys" than "men" around; about how if the woman is in a relationship with the man and he doesn't call her for 24 hours, she's moving on; etc., etc., etc. He ain't gotta call you! LOL. If you two are not engaged/married, neither of you are obligated to one another but you don't have to tell the world you're going to drop him because he didn't call you for a day either. At the end of the day, you both are still single and doing your own thing unless otherwise agreed upon by the two of you.
Let me tell you how annoying that is to see posted on Facebook, talked about in videos, or posted about on Instagram and Twitter. And what's most appalling to me is that it is coming from GROWN women, women who are over 25 years old. Ladies, let me stand you in front of a mirror for a second. All of those posts about how men aren't nothing, they are all the same, how if they were a man they would do this, that or the other, really reflects back on you. They are really telling the world the type of men YOU choose to keep company with, then complain about. They really show YOUR OWN immaturity.
If you have not learned by now, a man or any person, will treat you the way you allow them to. They will behave with you in a way that they know will be tolerated by you. In my personal opinion, an adult, male or female, is not concerned with how the opposite sex is not doing what they need them to do but rather focused on greater things at hand. If the man or woman is not meeting the standard of he adult counterpart, then that adult counterpart makes the executive decision to move forward with their lives without saying a word about it, displaying it to the world, or being a crybaby and "sneak dissing" or insulting the other person.
So think about this ladies: If you are looking for, waiting on, or praying for a man; shouldn't you first exhibit the behaviors of a woman? Be woman enough to uphold your standards and just walk away if they are not being met. Be woman enough to communicate your needs to that man in private if you feel like you don't want to give up just yet, don't be childish and post "subliminal" messages all over your Facebook page, liking and sharing other bitter, broken women's posts hoping he will see. Be woman enough to walk in your purpose, as the woman God has called you to be and trust that God will allow your path to cross with the man He has created for you. Stop allowing people to treat you in unsatisfactory ways and most of all, STOP POSTING ON SOCIAL MEDIA ABOUT IT!
It's time to grow up ladies and be the woman that a man is searching for. Proverbs 18:22 reads, HE who finds a wife, finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord. He's searching for a woman to be his wife, not a childish female who is posting all of these bad images of men. Proverbs 31: 11-12 talks about the virtuous woman and reads, The heart of her husband safely trusts her, so he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil ALL the days of her life. "All the days of her life" means even before she physically meets him. How can any man safely trust in a woman who man bashes on social media or anywhere else whenever she seems to get upset? Think about it. You want your Boaz but you're not acting anything like a Ruth to draw him to you.
In summary, evaluate and reevaluate your male/female relationships, what you are allowing in your life and what you will or will not tolerate. Be woman enough to move forward and trust God to bring you to the place where the true man of God is waiting for you, and learn to be a trustworthy woman by doing your husband good and not evil ALL the days of your life from this day forward! Your GREATER IS COMING but you have to show to be ready for it!
All my love,
Keya
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